At Some Point

The Fruit of Gratitude

By Agnesia Anggun Kinanti - May 20, 2018

"No one is going to hand me success. I must go out & get it myself. That’s why I’m here. To dominate. To conquer. Both the world and myself."

Happy to meet you again here. It's been a while 🙂

Of course, Marhaban Yaa Ramadhan! A month full of love, blessings, and all of the good things. One of the great things happens to me recently was my graduation from work training. I just passed my full year of work training. I just converted to a full-time employee. Maybe it sounds so usual, but not for me, at least. It is nice for being appreciated by something we did passionately.

Oiya, if you want to know, I work in Accenture, one of world company for consulting services. I started joining this company last year, as a pre-hired employee. Some of my other friends are also pre-hired, some of them are full-time employee since the beginning. It's kinda sad, most others employee said. They said it was like a tyranny for working one year as pre-hired. You only get the monthly salary and travel allowances without another amount of benefits. But Alhamdulillah, for one year past I never envy the others. I have felt enough for everything I got.

If I can look back, gratitude was not easy. Back then, when I was very tired of this work I started to complain to myself. I asked myself, 'what are you doing with this poor work-life balance'? Going home late at night, rarely hanging out with family and friends, is that a path I really want to choose? Luckily, that self-questioning happened so quickly. I moved back on track. It is not that bad actually. Sometimes I just need to relax and see things with the greater look.

I passed this past year passionately. I tell you, it was not easy at first. I learned many things during my first 6 months. I got yelled, I got rough words until I no longer surprised anymore. I learned that the high expectation is not achieved easily. Knowing that I was being challenged by that, I accepted it with an open mind. For the record, I succeed getting one of rising star amongst all pre-hired fellas. No one is going to hand me success. I must go out and get it myself.

I'm not saying that career is everything for me, not at all. I just need to have something worth living for. By having a good career, I can give something more to my beloved family. And of course, I can show to anyone that I can survive living my life independently.

That is one of my blessings I'd like to be forever grateful for. What is yours?

Cheers!
Agnesia Anggun K

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Stress Free Kit

By Agnesia Anggun Kinanti - January 15, 2018

Hello, Friends. It's been a while since I was maintaining this personal page. How are your first weeks in 2018? Hopefully, they're awesome as you are.

In this time, I want to talk about how to be stress-free in a stressful moment of life. I could say that I'm quite often facing stressful moment on my daily basis. Whether it is in my personal family life, work environment, even in my relationship. All those stressful moments exist because our expectation does not meet the reality we are in. In the end, life is full of problems that we must conquer, and they will always be there to make us grow. I listed down below 9 things that I used to do for stress-free life.

1. Breathe. Be mindful of the present. Be grateful.

When a stressful moment comes without any invitation, I used to close my eyes and take a deep breath. A really deep breath. I keep talking to myself to be calm, to be cool, and to be grateful. It is what it is. It might sound naive to be grateful in bad condition. But for me, being grateful is such a relief, and the good news is it costs you free.

2. Start to think logically.

I was emotionally broke when I was beaten by a stressful condition. I was sad, crying, and other feminist stuff you could relate. I used to impulsively catch my people up to share what I'm going through. I release my burden, my anguish, and all my problems with them. And after all emotional stuff is done, I start my logical thoughts. I divide the problems and define what is the logical action to address my issues.

3. It’s okay to say NO.

Usually, hard times come up when we always try to please another. It's okay to say NO to others for your own good. We could be more focus on what's important, and not too much-giving attention to what's not.

4. Done is better than perfect.

Sometimes when we keep thinking about something to make it perfect instead of start doing it, we could end up with doing nothing. We tend to think how to do it rather than actually make it done. Frankly, the more we keep thinking, the more time is shrinking. As a gentle reminder to my self, mostly I assume done is better than perfect. Not to mention that done perfectly is way better.

5. Save time for self-care.

I appreciate myself more after passing through any bad condition. I take a long shower, watch a featured movie, do skincare treatment, and stuff. Or when I'm not in budget mode, I go shopping. I think I deserve that kind of things.

6. Use perfume.

This tip is a bit different from the others. For me, using any fragrance is making myself fresh so I can think more clearly. I bring mine everywhere I go and usually spray it on my hand.

7. Move your body.

Well, I could say that I do this thing only when nobody is around. You turn the music on and you just dance. Feel your move of your body and you will feel like all burden is released away. You should try.

8. Focus on what’s important.

If seeing things online or hearing things everyone says is really affecting you that much, then you need to look at the values in your life. If your emotions are constantly being pushed this way or that way, and you feel like you’re never in control, it’s probably because you’re valuing a lot of the wrong things. Just stay outta shits & don't give af.

9. Have fun & take life less seriously

My senior once said to me when it was her last day in the project, "Have some fun and just save your ass". I don't know whether you can relate this. But for me, it is such a simple messages that become a reminder for myself. Reminder t always be happy, and to be safe from all problems. The problems, we could not get rid it off. But the problem that we enjoy dealing with, we can choose it up.

Cheers,

Agnesia Anggun Kinanti

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How I Reflect and Plan Myself for the New Year

By Agnesia Anggun Kinanti - January 01, 2018

Happy new year, Friends. Are you ready to start 2018 as I am very excited for it? I used to create new year resolutions, including renewing the old ones that still not achieved yet. I used to create the small ones. These small things become my ladder to achieve my life goal. Obviously.

2017 highlights

Well, I can say that my highlights of this year are not only about accomplishment and things that I'm must proud of. It could be my best memories of the year, any moment of joy, and things I want to remember.

Working with my best friend and traveling around the cities for a nice job.
Having a consultation with psychologists about my sister symptoms.
Working in a global professional services company.
Having first Eid Fitri in Jakarta all by myself.
Having my sister hospitalized for her illness and having her moved with family in another city.

I could say that 2017 has become a real tough year for me. Struggle, tears, hope, and joy. These are things that I'm gonna have with me for the rest of my life.

2017 I'm most grateful for

A lot of great things have happened to me this year. Some are good, and some are bad. I always look up to the bright side to everything that happens so what good might have come from the negative ones.

Having my family healthy inside out.
Having a nice job so I can learn a lot, and share the happiness with the beloved ones.
Having a supportive work environment with senior leaders and good team players.
Being around with a lot of supportive people as I want to mention them one by one.

Family. They are might not big and great, but I love them unconditionally. To my grandmother, sister, uncle, and also my mother's family.
Boyfriend, A-yang. For being here and accepting me as I am.
Friends. Including Tiara, Amel, Laras, Rina, Dinda, Kak Mariatul, Abi, Faizal, Karin, Citra, for listening to all my sighs and holding my hand and saying "Be strong, you can do this," and even lending me some money when I was broke. Without you guys, I'm just a dust.

If I could have a superpower, maybe one of them is the ability to be forever feeling grateful. Sounds naive, but it is. Because being grateful is the ultimate way to feel happy and content with what we have now.

Theme for 2018

A word that I want to become a compass of the year is Consistent. I want to be more consistent doing things that I really want to do. I want to invite consistency to every positive thing that I'm doing. In the past year, I was lack of consistency. I wanted to do my good habit activities in my version, but because of inconsistency, I was failed to maintain them. Hopefully, the initiation of making this as my theme could pave the way.

How do I want to evolve & grow in 2018

I believe that something great does not happen magically. There must be a struggle behind the stage. I was thinking about how I want to change and what difference I want to make in my life. I want to see myself as someone who always captures the good things and takes the wisdom from negative experiences. I will apply those things to my family, relationships, and career. The benefit of having all those growing curves is less complaining about life. You know life does not always serve us with happiness, satisfaction, entertainment, and stuff. I feel like I deserve the minimum so I can be grateful for the more. That's how I define what my life goal is.

Kurangilah kesenanganmu pada dunia agar berkurang kedukaanmu di akhirat

- Imam Syafi'i

Areas I want to focus on and the goals

I want to believe that we can grow in different areas at the same time, at the same rate. But in reality, that is not how life works. We can't accomplish things once at a time. In brief, I have two areas that I want to focus on. It's spirituality and financial. Both things are fundamental for me to continue life as it seems getting harder and harder. Life seems prettier with HQ spirituality and better financing. So I take the two for my focus of the beginning year.

So, how about you?

Cheers,

Agnesia Anggun Kinanti